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New Study Confirms Dads Need To Be More Like Bandit When Playing With Kids

Luke BenedictusBy Luke Benedictus.
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Bandit, the blue-heeler dad in Bluey, is a creative genius when it comes to playing with his children. Sure, he’d rather be watching the cricket. But Bandit still allows himself to be roped into wildly imaginative games of “horsey weddings”, “tickle crabs” or “Rug Island” – much to the wide-eyed delight of his kids.

As Bluey creator Joe Brumm previously told The Father Hood, he’s a firm believer that make-believe games can inadvertently teach children powerful lessons about how to co-operate, share and interact.

“Bluey is just one long extrapolation of that,” Brumm said in our interview with him here. “It’s to encourage people to look at play not just as kids mucking around, but as a really critical stage in their development that, I think, we overlook at their peril.”

Brumm’s theory has just received academic backing from new research that shows that children whose dads make time to play with them from a very young age may find it easier to control their behaviour and emotions as they grow up.

The study, by academics at the Faculty of Education, University of Cambridge and the LEGO Foundation, pulled together fragmentary evidence from the past 40 years to understand more about how fathers play with their children when they are very young (ages 0 to 3). The researchers wanted to find out whether father-child play differs from the way children play with their mothers, and its impact on children’s development.

Although there are many similarities between fathers and mothers overall, the findings suggest that fathers engage in more physical play even with the youngest children, opting for activities such as tickling, chasing, and piggy-back rides.

This seems to help children learn to control their feelings. It may also make them better at regulating their own behaviour later on, as they enter settings where those skills are important – especially school.

“It’s important not to overstate the impact of father-child play as there are limits to what the research can tell us,” said Paul Ramchandani, Professor of Play in Education, Development and Learning at the Faculty of Education, University of Cambridge. “But it does seem that children who get a reasonable amount of playtime with their father benefit as a group.”

“At a policy level, this suggests we need structures that give fathers, as well as mothers, time and space to play with their children during those critical early years. Even today, it’s not unusual for fathers who take their child to a parent-toddler group, for example, to find that they are the only father there. A culture shift is beginning to happen, but it needs to happen more.”

Parent-child play in the first years of life is known to support essential social, cognitive and communication skills, but most research focuses on mothers and infants. Studies that investigate father-child play are often small, or do so incidentally. “Our research pulled together everything we could find on the subject, to see if we could draw any lessons,” Ramchandani said.

The Cambridge review used data from 78 studies, undertaken between 1977 and 2017. The researchers analysed the combined information for patterns about how often dads and kids play together, the nature of that play, and any possible links with children’s development.

On average, they found that most dads play with their child every day. Even with the smallest children, however, father-child play tends to be more physical. With babies, that may simply mean picking them up or helping them to gently raise their limbs and exert their strength; with toddlers, fathers typically opt for boisterous, rough-and-tumble play, like chasing games.

In almost all the studies surveyed, there was a consistent correlation between father-child play and children’s subsequent ability to control their feelings. Children who enjoyed high-quality playtime with their fathers were less likely to exhibit hyperactivity, or emotional and behavioural problems. They also appeared to be better at controlling their aggression, and less prone to lash out at other children during disagreements at school.

The reason for this may be that the physical play fathers prefer is particularly well-suited for developing these skills.

“Physical play creates fun, exciting situations in which children have to apply self-regulation,” Ramchandani said. “You might have to control your strength, learn when things have gone too far – or maybe your father steps on your toe by accident and you feel cross!”

“It’s a safe environment in which children can practise how to respond. If they react the wrong way, they might get told off, but it’s not the end of the world – and next time they might remember to behave differently.”

You may think that having light-saber sword-fights or playing “escape the shark” are just a forlorn attempt to tire out your kids and make bedtime slightly less painful. But you’re also helping their emotional and behavioural development.

This is an edited version of a story from the Faculty of Education, University of Cambridge and the LEGO Foundation. Read the original here